When we want to get our ex back, we all tend to think the same kind of
things. We've got to promise them we'll change, we've got to do some
fast talking, we've got to apologize fifty times. Most people want
to get their ex back after splitting up, And they think they have to try
to sell themselves to their ex.
But often one of the very best methods to get your ex back is to listen
instead of talk. Know when to listen. Your ex broke up with you most
likely because you did some wrong things, like had an affair or were too
controlling.
As time went on, because of whatever you did, your ex's heart began to
fill up with negative emotions towards you. That's why they dumped you.
Their heart is now full of these bad feelings.
To get them back, you've got to help them to replace the negative
emotions with positive ones. You've got to help them to release and
resolve the negative feelings.
Fortunately, there is a great way to help them to do this. It's called
venting or getting things off one's chest. You've probably done it or
helped a friend to do it. After work you have a beer and they tell you
all about what their boss is doing that drives them nuts. After venting
to you, they feel better.
Getting them to vent is one of the best ways to help them to let go of
all the bad feelings that have built up in them. Yes, of course you will
need to apologize and do some of the talking. But get them to talk first
and it will make everything else go better.
Ask them how they feel about what you did. Then shut up and listen.
Don't argue or defend yourself. Let them blow off steam. Let them dump
their frustrations all over you. Focus on making them feel heard and
understood. Keep asking them to tell you more until they are done. Let
them do all the talking, you just listen.
If you can do this a few times and really get them to vent, you will be
much better off. They may release enough negative feelings to have room
to consider taking you back.
Action Plan:
Write up two different ways to
encourage your ex to talk about how they feel.
Call and try one or both lines,
and see what happens.
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