If you want to get your ex
back, you can often do it fast. Usually not within 30 minutes, but
sometimes depending on what happened you actually can get back together
after one 30 minute phone call. However long it might take you,
this same strategy can be used to get your ex back within hours to a few
days. How you do it is by understanding something about emotions, and
how to help them to heal or resolve.
Emotions are what you are
going to have to deal with to get your ex back. The happy feelings they
had in their heart for you have been replaced by unhappy emotions. This
is the key to the break up. And it is the key to getting them back.
The question is this: how do
you get someone to release and let go of negative feelings? If you can
answer that, you have the answer to how to get your ex back fast. Your
ex is mad at you. Or bored with you. Or feeling hurt and betrayed by
you. These are powerful strong feelings that have overcome their
feelings of love and intimacy for you.
Since they no longer feel
positive towards you, they have ended the relationship. To get them
back, you have to change those feelings. You have to help them to let
go of their negative feelings and get back to the positive feelings. If
you can do this, you have a chance to get your ex back. If you can’t do
this, you can apologize one thousand times and it will make no
difference. You will have no chance.
To get your ex back in as
little as 30 minutes (or to clearly start the process), you need to help
them to let go of the negative emotions by “venting.” They need a
chance to get these feelings off their chest, to release them by talking
about them. That is one of the more powerful ways you can help someone
to release and let go of bad feelings.
Venting is a familiar
process. You’ve likely done it at the bar with friends after a week’s
work, talking about the boss and your work week. After a beer or two
and a bunch of venting, you feel better about things and your job and
your work. You have let go of the frustrations and the irritations that
go with your job. You feel refreshed and more ready to get back to
work.
Well, the same principle
applies to getting your ex back. You have to let your ex vent,
hopefully all over you. The more they vent and tell you how they feel
about what you did, the more they are releasing and letting go of
negative feelings. So you want them to get down and tell you how they
really feel.
For this to work, you have to
ask them how they feel about what you did and then shut up and listen.
Let them blame you, call you names, rage at you, cry, whatever they need
to do. You don’t argue, defend, justify, or attack. You just make them
feel heard and understood.
The more you can do that, the
more they will release and let go of their hateful or hurt feelings.
The more they vent, the more quickly they can get back to feelings of
forgiveness and then love. They can’t forgive if they haven’t
released the negative hurt emotions pent up in their heart.
Depending on what happened,
you can sometimes get your ex back to feelings of intimacy for you
within 30 minutes. But if it takes a few days for them to process their
feelings and let them go, that’s okay to. By getting them to open up
and vent, you have started a powerful process to get them back into your
arms. There is more to it than this, but just this one step can make a
big difference.
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