Maybe you have been trying hard to get your ex back and called and left
100 messages. You've left long heartfelt messages and short begging
notes, and they still aren't returning your calls. How can you ever get
your lover back if they refuse to talk to you?
If your ex won't talk to you, what can you do? Rather than try gimmicks
or tricks like stalking them so you can bump into them at the
supermarket, I recommend honesty and sincerity. So if they aren't
calling you back, you can do a few different things:
You can call them and leave a final message which offers them a deal. If
they will give you ten minutes of their time, you'll stop texting and
leaving endless voice mails. So then, can they please call you back? You
don't need to beg or plead or threaten them, and you want to sound (and
be) respectful, sincere and honest. Oftentimes your ex will call you
back, just because of the promise of no more nagging or begging phone
messages!
Or send them a note with the same message. What your ex is looking for
at this point is for you to stop bothering them, so leave them a message
or send them a note and then see if they'll respond. It might take them
a day or two, but you can usually get a response this way " depending on
how unpleasant the break up was.
Once you've called and left a message or sent a note, give them a day or
two to get back to you. And if they don't call you, and upsetting as it
may be, it's okay. This obviously happens. Each break up is unique as to
what caused it and how damaging emotionally it was. Getting your ex back
is a process you have to dance with.
If they don't get to you, they may just need more time to process their
feelings and begin to let go of their anger or sadness about you and the
break up. They need space. Everyone is different. So give them a week of
No Contact. A week of silence from you. Then try the above steps again.
Not contacting them for a week
or two may seem hard, but sometimes ex lovers just need that space.
However urgently you feel you need to talk to them, they are processing
their own feelings in their own time and way. Often, it isn't
personal to you that they aren't contacting you.
You don't have to wait forever (even though it may seem like forever),
but a little time and space can do wonders for letting angry emotions
dissolve. Its often not what we want to hear, but a week or two of no
contact can show that you respect their feelings and needs.
So give it a week of NO CONTACT and then make a call. You can often move
towards getting your ex back with a little patience. If they still don't
get back to you, there are some more detailed steps you can take by
sending them a particular type of apology and/or reconnect letter.
This is just one strategy.
There are several other ways to get your ex back even if they aren't
returning your calls. Sometimes you can even get them back in
hours. If you would like to get your
ex back even when they're not that into you anymore, you can check out a
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