Ok, you've fought, argued, broken up, and now you want to get your ex
back. What do you do? Are there proven steps? Do you just
sit around hoping your ex gets over their anger or upset? What
have others done that has worked? Is there any relationship advice
that will work?
During your break up, feelings of anger or hatred or sadness replaced
feelings of love and closeness, right? You started feeling angry or
betrayed instead of loving and intimate. That's why you fought and had a
break up. This happens every day all over the world.
But then you started feeling regret. After a day or a week or two you
started to feel like you missed those feelings of closeness and
connection. The angry or hurt feelings started to get replaced by other
feelings. So lets look at this truth about feelings. For the most part,
intense feelings like anger do not last. They change!
That feelings change is a good
sign. Otherwise, we'd all be in trouble.
You know this. You get happy and it doesn't last, does it? You've been
sad and the sadness goes away. You get mad at someone, a day later you
aren't so mad anymore. That's the way it is with feelings. They change.
This is powerful Emotional Logic to understand. Feelings change, go
away, move about all the time for most of us.
You know this first hand. While you were breaking up with your ex, you
were angry or very hurt and sad. Now, those feelings are being replaced,
shifting back to desire and longing for the closeness and connection you
had with your mate. Now you want to give it another go. Your feelings
have shifted. It seems obvious, but the point is important: emotions
change.
When there is a break up, you
want those negative emotions to change, right? That's what most of
us are counting on when we want to get our ex back. Time will heal
the wounds, we've all experienced it. However, some emotions stick
around a long time, particularly when we've been hurt or feel betrayed.
Some things happen that obviously can cause unpleasant emotions to stick
around. Depending on what caused the break up, they probably have lots
of feelings of hurt or anger that are still sticking around. Lets say
you cheated on your ex. This is a form of emotional betrayal that brings
up strong feelings in people, as you know firsthand - or can imagine.
Even though it may have been a few weeks, your ex may still be filled
with strong feelings of distrust and shame and sadness.
So how can you use something like Emotional Logic to help get back with
your ex? Simple. You can help them to vent, to get those bad feelings
"off their chest." Help them to get them out. So, when you talk to them,
ask how they are feeling about what you did or the break up. Then try to
be quiet and give them time to form up their emotions into words and
"vent" them.
Do not argue with them or try to explain yourself endlessly. Let them do
all the talking, you listen. That way, you avoid more arguing. Make them
right, whatever they say, for just these few minutes. After a short time
of venting, your ex will often begin to let go of the charge they have
about what happened. Then, they can begin to start to feel better about
you!
There is more to this process, but supporting your ex in "spilling" and
releasing their negative feelings can be a vital part in getting them to
take you back into their life. Feelings change, and you want to help
their negative feelings change as fast as you can!
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