Are you losing your dignity while losing your ex?? Sometimes, when
we have lost our love and we want them back, we feel so desperate that
we make poor choices. We beg and plead with them, or we call them and
leave twenty messages a day, or other things that make us look weak and
needy. However, there are ways to get your ex back without losing your
dignity.
One thing you can do to get
your ex back is make one powerful apology. This is entirely different
than saying you’re sorry one thousand times. One good deep apology will
take about ten to twenty minutes, and when it is done right it can shift
your lover’s heart and create room for them to forgive you and take you
back. No begging or phone harassment needed at all.
A deep apology only works if
you have wronged your mate. If they lost interest in you over time, due
to relationship drift, then you need to do something else instead of
apologize to get them back. But if you have done something wrong that
got you kicked out, then a powerful apology that can get your ex back
has five to seven steps that make it effective. You don’t say you are
sorry til after you have done several things first.
One of the first steps is to
fess up to what you did. Admit what you did wrong, or at least your
part in whatever caused the breakup. Too many people think that if they
really own up to what they did wrong that this will make them look weak
and wrong to their mate. So they try to deny or justify or explain away
what they did.
Don’t cheat on your ex and
then say “It was because you were cold to me” or “it was because I was
drinking.” This makes it seem like the next time you drink or feel
distance in the relationships you might cheat again. Trying to justify
or explain away your actions will get in the way of getting your ex
back.
This only makes you look
unwilling to take responsibility. If you cheated on your ex, he or she
can forgive you. They really can. It happens all the time. But they
won’t be able to if you don’t start by admitting what you did wrong.
Forgiving someone is much easier if you know that they know what they
did wrong. So start by admitting what you did wrong and your ex will at
least see that you can take responsibility for your actions.
So the first step in a deep
apology is to simply own up to what you did. This sets you up for the
another vital step to get your ex back, which is to then let your ex
vent or get things off their chest. You ask your mate “how do you feel
about what I did?” Even though you already know that they feel angry
or betrayed, you ask them so that they can vent and get those feelings
off their chest.
You ask and then shut up and
listen. You let them take all the time they need to put their feelings
into words and talk about them. You don’t argue with them, you don’t
defend yourself, you just let them talk and you do your best to make
them feel heard and understood.
This is the most overlooked
and misunderstood step in getting your ex back with dignity. We tend to
think when we have lost our mate that we need to do all the talking and
convince them to take us back. But you don’t. It is much more
important to be a good listener and let them talk. Let them get those
negative, dark feelings out. Let them dump them all over you. The more
they do that, the more they are releasing and resolving those feelings.
There are more steps to a deep
apology, but these two are a great beginning when it comes to getting
your ex back. Own up to what you did and then give your ex a chance to
vent and release their hurt feelings. Then they will have room to
forgive and consider taking you back.
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